Wants, Needs, Deserves, and Haves...

Write a list of what you want, what you need, and what you deserve in relationships. Next, write what you don't want, don't need, and don't deserve. Now look at the relationships that involve most of your time, thoughts, effort, and attention. What do you have? If your lists don't match up with what you have, what's in your power to change that? - Doe Zantamata